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Piece #52 - The Blues

My wife has always been a huge fan of Eeyore the donkey, though I was never sure why. I can with confidence say that not all Asperger people (Aspies) suffer from depression, but I can understand the weight one would feel if they were under constant pressure of being autistic. I can find myself slipping into a depressive state if things aren't going the way I had hoped or wishing that my conditions would be better. My condition was Asperger's with OCD, but I've never been diagnosed with depression with the other stuff. My wife is a different story. I know depression can be very dangerous.

As I mentioned a second ago, my wife is a huge Eeyore fan, but she wasn't always depressed. If you go back and read "Tragedy and 2009", I think you might have a better idea why my wife has been depressed. I know she wants to feel better and I know she will, it just takes time, love and therapy to help get through it. I don't believe you can get over it completely, but it still can be manageable. I believe the birth of our granddaughter, Sophia, has been a real blessing to her because she has put a lot of attention on her and all our daughters. I do believe medication can work, but you really have to be careful because we have had bad experiences in the past.

I do have a good friend who has been battling depression for a while, though I would admit I'm not sure how long he's had it; and if there are any other conditions that he suffers from, I don't know that as well. I do know he's had to deal with a broken marriage (which he is happily married now), the death of a family member and the loss of his job. I have to applaud him for fighting through this and having a supportive wife and family. I do know he has been going to a support group. I've spoken with him on a few occasions and I've tried using Jesus as a way for self-comfort and reassurance, but I not sure if he's ready to take him in yet. I can assure you that I will continue to try. (It’s always darkest before the dawn!)

I will admit that depression in someone with Asperger's can be rather dangerous. It can lead us down a road to which we would never return. You always have to be aware of your feelings and what you're doing to help level yourself out. I take medication that helps keeps me from overreacting to situations, but rarely does it make me depressed. I have all kinds of let downs like if a promise was made, but the person didn't follow through; nothing drastic like that. I guess in many ways I see it as since my wife is dealing with her depression, I have to step up and be the positive support so Jaimee can feel a little better at ease and not drive her to a deeper depression. Sadly with my Asperger's however, I can't always pick up on the signals so I know it's time to pull her out of a depressing situation. We are a working unit and when one is down the other has to pull it back up. The bottom line is that Jesus must be right there to remind you that no matter how you feel, He really cares and He will do anything to help. I feel we tend to forget that fact and that you're not alone. It must always start with the Lord because through Him, you can find healing.


Song of Inspiration [Check it out on iTunes or Android!]:

Song: "Hurt"

Artist: Johnny Cash

Album: American IV: The Man Comes Around

Here's Johnny Cash's last great song for those who are feeling depressed.

Here's a shirt that Christen airbrushed for me from Worlds of Fun. I thought she did a fantastic job! LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK!!!

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