Piece #92 - Rebuking

I realize that rebuke tends to be a more biblical term, but it can reach much further than a simple reference in the Bible. I learned an interesting lesson about rebuking, it's not as easy as it seems. Webster's Dictionary defines rebuke as "to speak in an angry and critical way to (someone)" I can see how and why the dictionary defined it as such, but I feel like the dictionary didn't quite get this word properly defined. I would almost say this this definition is meant for 'chastising' than 'rebuking'. I would define rebuking as 'a method of correcting one's decisions in a critical manner.' Anger is involved but, not in the way the definition uses it.

I can recall on many occasions when I was rebuke quite often from people that are close to me. The big problem with Asperger's is even though a friend or family member might warn me about something that I did wrong; there are times when I'll do it again. Thus, I would be rebuked because I didn't follow the instructions...because I forgot what had happen the first time. This is not an excuse, I really can't always remember certain things, even if I've done it several times before; I know it frustrated my mom, but I don't blame her. I do feel disappointment and irritation, but I understood and moved forward. I never got an apology because they were in the right and I was clearly in the wrong.

I recently came across a verse in the Bible that talks about rebuking and this is what it said: Proverbs 9:8 "Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you; rebuke the wise and they will love you." NIV I honestly can tell you that I didn't "love" them at first, but at least I understood and tried to be more aware of short-giving’s. I have actually been on the other side of that coin...especially if you're a parent. I will always love my daughters, but there have been times when I have had to rebuke them 'Biblically' for things they did wrong on more than one occasion. My girls didn't like me very much, but they knew I still loved them and they tried not to do it again. Of course, my youngest daughters who both have Asperger's like me; it would take them a little longer to understand like I did when I was younger.

I understand the importance of rebuking, but it's never something I like because I'm not a big fan of conflict. I will stand up when I need to and do what the Lord commands (after all, Jesus rebuked his own disciples with no apology!), but I try to avoid it as much as possible. Rebuking is taking a chance and hoping for a positive change...they will either yell at you or they will humbly accept it and move forward. I've always tried to move ahead because there is no point in wallowing in the past. Besides, with my Asperger's I have this habit of forgetting anyway...sometimes it's a curse and other times it's a blessing...I just haven't figured that part out yet.

Song of Inspiration [Check it out on iTunes or Android!]:

Song: "Losing"

Artist: Tenth Avenue North

Album: The Struggle

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Good words to remember...

Piece #75 - My Directing Method

Being a director like I have for several years, there are things that I've had to deal with in this business. This isn't the professional method of directing, but this is my perspective on how to be a director in any medium. I will probably address the proper method of how to treat actors, but that is not the sole focus on what I'm going to share. As a director you will have to deal with people who think they know it all and you can't say anything that will benefit me. The problem that most amateur actors forget is that acting is an art form, but it's also an occupation. I think people tend to forget that acting is work...hard work. One of the things that I try to let the kids know is that it's a very difficult business to get into. I feel like they need to hear the truth about the world of entertainment. I tell them that they have to 'want' it very badly and do almost anything to get in. An internship is a great way to get your foot in the door, bu

Piece #103 - I.Q.

I have, in some form or fashion, addressed this topic on intelligence, but I thought I'd hit this head on. One of the big things that people with Asperger's gets tied with is having a high intelligence. I have to admit that I've had a hard time finding solid evidence on all people with Asperger's having a high intelligence. I guess this a bit of a piggy back to my earlier posting #78 No Talent Required. The difference between these two is I'm going to address the intelligence in general versus the talents from Asperger's (or Savants). When it comes to the topic of intelligence, I get a similar feeling like in high school when the class decides on 'the most successful' label. I say this because I've always questioned what is successful? In turn I would also ask in the same breath what is intelligent? Testing the intelligence of someone used to seem like either a brainiac, just an average person or an idiot...depending on the score which is reall

Piece #28 - Puzzles

I realize autism is symbolized by a puzzles piece and I've noticed that some people have taken some offense to that, but this doesn't deal directly with that topic. This is a straight observation on puzzles and how they affect me and the twins. With the new age of electronic devices, it has changed to way we do pretty much everything! In this case I want to focus on puzzles because there are lots of computer game companies that are betting on us to buy their own special puzzle game, whether it is on the iPad, iTouch or smart phone. I will say that I do own an iTouch and yes, I do love it! Unfortunately, I can get sucked into several good puzzle games. So far the top ones I love to play are Chuzzle, Bejeweled, Tiki Totems and of course...Angry Birds. To be honest, I also will go 'old school' and play Solitaire, Mahjong, Sudoku and even Tetris because they still have a place in my heart. Sometimes the simpler games I would rather play because they are quick and easier

Pressing Puzzles

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