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Piece #92 - Rebuking

I realize that rebuke tends to be a more biblical term, but it can reach much further than a simple reference in the Bible. I learned an interesting lesson about rebuking, it's not as easy as it seems. Webster's Dictionary defines rebuke as "to speak in an angry and critical way to (someone)" I can see how and why the dictionary defined it as such, but I feel like the dictionary didn't quite get this word properly defined. I would almost say this this definition is meant for 'chastising' than 'rebuking'. I would define rebuking as 'a method of correcting one's decisions in a critical manner.' Anger is involved but, not in the way the definition uses it. 

I can recall on many occasions when I was rebuke quite often from people that are close to me. The big problem with Asperger's is even though a friend or family member might warn me about something that I did wrong; there are times when I'll do it again. Thus, I would be rebuked because I didn't follow the instructions...because I forgot what had happen the first time. This is not an excuse, I really can't always remember certain things, even if I've done it several times before; I know it frustrated my mom, but I don't blame her. I do feel disappointment and irritation, but I understood and moved forward. I never got an apology because they were in the right and I was clearly in the wrong. 

I recently came across a verse in the Bible that talks about rebuking and this is what it said: Proverbs 9:8 "Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you; rebuke the wise and they will love you." NIV  I honestly can tell you that I didn't "love" them at first, but at least I understood and tried to be more aware of short-giving’s. I have actually been on the other side of that coin...especially if you're a parent. I will always love my daughters, but there have been times when I have had to rebuke them 'Biblically' for things they did wrong on more than one occasion. My girls didn't like me very much, but they knew I still loved them and they tried not to do it again. Of course, my youngest daughters who both have Asperger's like me; it would take them a little longer to understand like I did when I was younger.

I understand the importance of rebuking, but it's never something I like because I'm not a big fan of conflict. I will stand up when I need to and do what the Lord commands (after all, Jesus rebuked his own disciples with no apology!), but I try to avoid it as much as possible. Rebuking is taking a chance and hoping for a positive change...they will either yell at you or they will humbly accept it and move forward. I've always tried to move ahead because there is no point in wallowing in the past. Besides, with my Asperger's I have this habit of forgetting anyway...sometimes it's a curse and other times it's a blessing...I just haven't figured that part out yet.


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Song: "Losing"

Artist: Tenth Avenue North

Album: The Struggle



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