I realize in today's family, the roles are changing rather drastically. I can think of another time when roles in the family were shaken up since World War 2. Life today seems more like unwed mothers giving birth to fatherless children and if they are married the couple only has about a 50-50 shot of staying married. I realize this doesn't seem to make sense, but that's the reality of the world we live in. Traditionally, in any house, the father was the person who was always considered the 'head of the household', but that role has deteriorated through the years.
How did this whole idea start? Not surprising we can look to the Bible for the answer. As I mentioned back in a previous blog about Leadership, the book dictates that the male is the head of the household and will be personally judged on the spirituality of the members of the family. So we as the males have a heavy responsibility on the welfare of everyone in the family. Sadly, this task for the male of the house has dwindled down because they don't want to take responsibility any more. As fathers are staying away from the home and marriage is trying to get redefined, the Bible's laws are quickly fading from our society.
In all reality, the decisions that my wife and I make generally are ones that are made together. If you are married, there needs to be an equal opportunity between the husband and wife because if one makes all the decisions without the others input then the marriage is in jeopardy. Yes, I am the head of my house and I do have a final say on matters that can be critical if needed, but I leave several decision to Jaimee for lots of reasons. The key factor is my Asperger's, if Jaimee wasn't here with me I would be lost because I will forget all kinds of stuff and Jaimee has been my saving grace to catch all the stuff I miss. The biggest are the bills and other needs in the house and needs for the family that I always miss. Jaimee will have to remind me of obligations that I need to accomplish.
To be honest, there are lots of days when I really don't feel like being the head of the house. I've known that the girls will look to me for many decisions or errands that have to be run because they always liked to go with me. My tiredness isn't a sign of laziness, but just exhaustion. As much I as I don't relish the role of head of household, I know I still have to do the job because the members of my family do depend on me. I've always had dreams and aspirations to do lots of things like drawing, acting or writing; but I had to put those things aside to focus on my family. Sadly, many people who seek fame and have a family will almost destroy their own families for their own glory. Fame and family have to be balanced very well to make sure one doesn't over take the other. Jobs can come and go; and the limelight might dim, but your family should be the greatest accomplishment you have ever had. If you are the head of the house, then you are going to have to understand just how critical your role is...making your family proud.
Song of Inspiration [Check it out on iTunes or Android!]:
Song: "All In"
Album: Smoke and Mirrors