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Piece #22 - The Power of Love

As I have mentioned in previous blogs, I love my wife. Ever since I was a kid, I wanted to be married. To be honest, my tale of love was rather strange as a child. I was very self-aware of women very early in life, for example, I had cut out a picture of a woman in a bra and then proceeded to color in Superman symbols around her when I was 6 years old. I was really young when I had my first kiss, granted I tricked the very lovely young lady, but I got it! We were downstairs in my house and I told the girl to pretend to be a patient and I was going to be the doctor. (You can almost tell how this was going to end.) I remember being really excited, but nervous. I took a second to look at how beautiful she was; then I leaned down and kissed her right on the lips! Of course, right after that she got mad and left, but it was awesome.

When I was in middle school, I did have one female admirer, but I also had the bully who liked her too, but she ended up liking someone else...I got stuck with the bully. I didn't have a lot of luck in high school, going to a small school didn't help, but I did have a one or two temporary girlfriends until they moved out of town or found a "better" guy. I'm kind of glad I didn't have a long term girlfriend only because it gave me the chance to check out different girls to see what might be the best eventual wife for me. Strangely, I never had a lot of luck with girl's whose name started with "J". I literally dated a Jody, Jennifer, Jackie, Jill and Julie with no luck...of course the greatest irony, I married Jaimee (go figure!).

I've already written about how I met Jaimee and what happen since, but I want to come at it from a different angle with her and the love I have for her. As a man with Asperger's, it's not too hard for me to get 'distracted' with other women. However, I would never ever think about cheating on Jaimee. My feelings for her run real deep because I guess in some ways; she took a chance on me. With everything she had been through in her early life (let's just say it was really bad), she was willing to throw all of her commitment, dedication, love and security into my arms. That is a heavy load, but because I love her so much, it was a task I was willing to take. If you want to know if your marriage is good, you have to ask yourself 'Do you enjoy being with your spouse?'. If the answer is no, then why are you married? Jaimee doesn't want me to be around her every single second, but she enjoys being with me. Granted, with the Asperger's, Jaimee has to remind me that I might be hanging over her a little too much, but being married to her as long as I have, I have picked up on the timing a little bit better on when I'm going too far.

For any of you with Asperger's and you have an issue with love, all I can say is that it will take time. Asperger's or not, a relationship is hard work, but it can be rewarding. I would never trade the years I've had with Jaimee for anything else. We have four beautiful girls and when it's just us two again, we'll just pick up where we left off before kids! (Who am I kidding? The kids will be with us forever!) When I said those vows back in 1989, I meant it and I still today. That is how any relationship should be, and having Jesus in the middle of the marriage is the best thing of all. I can't guarantee any marriage because you have to go off your own judgment, but remember it takes two people to run a have to be a team.

Song of Inspiration [Check it out on iTunes!]:

Song: “Lead Me”

Artist: Sanctus Real

Album: Pieces of a Real Heart

{I really want to encourage you to listen to this song; it really calls me out as both a husband and a father. Here's the video to the song!}


Song: “Fragile”

Artist: Sting

Album: “…Nothing like the Sun.

SURPRISE!!!! Here's the music video for Fragile!

I love you Jaimee!

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