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Piece #57 - Privacy


Here is a department I have a difficult time with. As you have read before, timing was never one of my best talents. I remember on many occasions when I would go use the restroom only to discover that one of my young daughters had been using it first and in their adolescent voice they would simply tell me "privacy, privacy". Early on they were well aware of the idea behind having time alone to do things without others. Sadly, my daughters didn't quite always understand privacy of other people...like mom and dad. (Know what I mean?) I've tried to give my daughters their space from my first one to the last ones; it's been a struggle because trust was an issue I had with most of them...especially when they got older. It's kind of funny because there were some children I could trust over others and in many ways that did disappoint me.

Is this a really big deal? Well to some it is, but I tend to be short sighted, meaning I tend to ignorant of people's privacy. I will forget that there are certain moments when a private meeting is being held that doesn't include me and in turn I would want people to stay out of my business because the information I have to share can be personal and not for everyone. In reality, it's like bit like a double standard. I want to know what other people are secretly sharing but at the same time I don't want everyone to know my business. There was one time when I had to stand up because privacy or not, I was not going to simply sit by and allow this situation to happen: it happened when Jaimee and I were still dating and we both were working at the same mall. One day, out of the blue, Jaimee's old boyfriend reared his ugly head and saw her at the mall for the first time in a couple of years. Of course, I was right there and I knew how much of an effect he had on her so I tried to keep myself in the conversation. But, his true persona came shining through like I was nothing to him or Jaimee so he told me to butt out. Jaimee insisted it’s okay, so I kept my distance until he was finished trying to show his machoness to MY future wife. She told me that she was invited to come over to his house to meet his parents again that night, alone. (Don't you think those alert bells went off like crazy!!!?) So there was no way in hell I was going to let that happen so I told her that I'd go with her. Jaimee at first was offended because she believed I couldn't trust her. But I stood my ground on this 'invitation' and Jaimee saw the potential danger in this decision...so, she didn't go. I realize that Jaimee wanted that private conversation with her old flame, but I knew that was going to be way too dangerous.

We did have a lot of issues in 2009 and one of our daughters, so privacy became a big problem for both Jaimee and I, but we're the parents and we did what we had to do to help our children. Even now with Christen and Sarah, we would be the same way, but those two are very different than our older two and so the issues haven't been as severe. None the less, their mom and I always want the best for our child...even if we have to give up some privacy.


Song of Inspiration [Check it out on iTunes or Android!]:

Song:  "Curiosity Killed The Cat"

Artist: Guardian

Album: Miracle Mile

                           I know this is a bit of an oldie, but it's still a goody!






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