I realize in today's family, the roles are changing rather
drastically. I can think of another time when roles in the family were shaken
up since World War 2. Life today seems more like unwed mothers giving birth to
fatherless children and if they are married the couple only has about a 50-50
shot of staying married. I realize this doesn't seem to make sense, but that's
the reality of the world we live in. Traditionally, in any house, the father
was the person who was always considered the 'head of the household', but that
role has deteriorated through the years.
How did this whole idea start? Not
surprising we can look to the Bible for the answer. As I mentioned back in a
previous blog about Leadership, the book dictates that the male is the head of
the household and will be personally judged on the spirituality of the members
of the family. So we as the males have a heavy responsibility on the welfare of
everyone in the family. Sadly, this task for the male of the house has dwindled
down because they don't want to take responsibility any more. As fathers are
staying away from the home and marriage is trying to get redefined, the Bible's
laws are quickly fading from our society.
In all reality, the decisions that my wife
and I make generally are ones that are made together. If you are married, there
needs to be an equal opportunity between the husband and wife because if one
makes all the decisions without the others input then the marriage is in
jeopardy. Yes, I am the head of my house and I do have a final say on matters that can be critical if needed, but I leave several decision to Jaimee for lots
of reasons. The key factor is my Asperger's, if Jaimee wasn't here with me I
would be lost because I will forget all kinds of stuff and Jaimee has been my
saving grace to catch all the stuff I miss. The biggest are the bills and other
needs in the house and needs for the family that I always miss. Jaimee will have to
remind me of obligations that I need to accomplish.
To be honest, there are lots of days when
I really don't feel like being the head of the house. I've known that the girls
will look to me for many decisions or errands that have to be run because they
always liked to go with me. My tiredness isn't a sign of laziness, but just
exhaustion. As much I as I don't relish the role of head of household, I know
I still have to do the job because the members of my family do depend on me.
I've always had dreams and aspirations to do lots of things like drawing,
acting or writing; but I had to put those things aside to focus on my family.
Sadly, many people who seek fame and have a family will almost destroy their
own families for their own glory. Fame and family have to be balanced very well
to make sure one doesn't over take the other. Jobs can come and go; and the
limelight might dim, but your family should be the greatest accomplishment you
have ever had. If you are the head of the house, then you are going to have to
understand just how critical your role is...making your family proud.
Song of Inspiration [Check it out on iTunes or Android!]:
Song: "All In"
Artist: Lifehouse
Album: Smoke and Mirrors
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