Piece #47 - Self Image

Here's a real tough issue that I've semi addressed in a blog or two. Before I was taking medication for my mood stabilizer, I rarely had given self-image a lot of thought. As I've mention before, I was teased a lot when I was younger and they tried to demoralize the way I looked, dressed or spoke; but I didn't give it much creed. I believe a little push with self-image can be beneficial if it improves your life. The Lord does say that our body's are a temple and we to take care of it, but we can't obsesses over our imagine. It wasn't until I was a little older that I tried a little harder to make myself look better for the girls. I guess if I allowed the tease to really affect me then I might have been typing this blog as we speak.

Society seems to believe that most females have the hardest time with self-image. To be honest, this is a concept that I'm still gaining a real understanding for how girls get their image. Is it the words I say? Is it my nonverbal actions? I have four girls of my own and I've always tried to be conscience of their feelings when it came to giving my opinion on how they might look. I have to thank my tireless wife who tries to remind me if I need to say something or when to just shut up. This has always been my weakness when it comes to this Asperger life I have to live. As a dad, I want to give my children the best of my life so they can in turn experience the life the Lord has blessed them with, because you have to remember you only get one.

I think that's where all of us need to be reminded that God doesn't make mistakes. I understand we all want acceptance from our partners and our peers, but our self-image has to go further than that. Self-image has to be buried well under the 'skin deep' area. You are a miracle, a new creation. You are loved by the Lord and you will always be adored by Him. So saying that you don't believe nor He doesn't care would break His heart...I know because it has happened to me with one of my own daughters. The relationship is getting better, but it still needs some work. Reassurance is one thing that most people seek in their self-image development, but in reality it's not needed from others because the Lord is constantly trying to convey that message all our lives!

I believe the best thing to do is let others see what you do in deeds, instead of how you look. (Like being in the mission field) There have been countless stories that addressed that very thing! In the end, the only thing that matters was what you did in this world than simply how you looked. Try not to be hard yourself, after all God loves you and He hopes to see your perfect self again in Heaven!

Song on Inspiration [Check it out on iTunes or Android!]:

Song: "Gold"

Artist: Britt Nicole

Album: Gold

Here's a great song if you're having trouble with your self-image! So much I took the liberty of posting the music video...It's really worth watching! Enjoy.

This is from a Starbucks Cup. I think it says about everything one needs if you feel like you are not sure who you are or why your here. Read it close.

Piece #111 - First Impressions

"You already know that making a good first impression can go a long way. But forget all the advice you've received about dressing to impress or putting on a cheesy smile. Turns out, the true secret to building a lasting connection reaches much deeper than what you wear." "According to Amy Cuddy, a Harvard Business School professor who has researched first impressions for more than 15 years, everyone (consciously or subconsciously) asks two questions when they meeting someone new: Can I trust this person? And can I respect this person?" This quote comes from Reader's Digest and I actually found this rather compelling because I never really heard of this before. I've addressed this topic of first impressions in the past but, I have to admit that this idea is interesting. I guess since you hear a lot of things from a smile, the outfit or what you say make the difference; however these two questions have me a little perplexed. I think it depends on the ...

Piece #1 - The Beginning

I guess like embarking on any puzzle, it must always starts with the first piece. So to begin, I have Asperger's Syndrome, in other words I'm Autistic, and so this literature will be about my struggles with this disorder as an adult. I was first diagnosed back in the summer of 2004. If it wasn't for my twin daughters, I might not have ever known all the questions I have ever had in life; to them, I will always be in their debt. Growing up, you are never really aware of any differences until the judgment years...6th thru 12th grade of school. A time when one always tests their own humanity against others; meaning, how will I measure up against other students. In my eyes I seemed to be just like them; two arms and legs, ten fingers and toes, head and body...nothing unusual. Yet, for some reason, I was treated a little different than everyone else. That's one of those things that you can't quite put your finger on, but I observed on many occasions how kids would talk...

Piece #12 - "Temper, Temper."

Anger is a learned behavior. When we come into this world, we comprehend how to react to things by watching others. One of my many...many weaknesses has always been my anger. As you can tell I enjoy writing and whenever I've written in my characters for a story, at least one would have an anger issue. The story I'm currently writing now called Horizon, the main character Miko has problems with her rage. It's something she'll have to deal with throughout the entire story. I guess in many ways it's a reflection on how I've had to handle it. Early in our marriage, I had warned my wife that I would need her help in making sure I wouldn’t let the anger get ahold of me, for the main reason...the kids. I love my girls way too much for them to pick up the same bad habit. Yes, I obviously understand that we all get angry from time to time. ( Even Jesus got angry when merchants were selling their items in the temple .) I'm talking about an extreme anger when in many ...

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