Piece #38 - Procrastination

This is my kryptonite, because I have a serious problem in this department. I think this is a problem for a lot of people. It's funny though because I'm not always doing things at the last minute. I've noticed that there will be times when I will do some task at the minute rather than wait until later. I think the issue is my forgetfulness! I do worry about forgetting things and if there was something important I had to do then I might try to do it at that moment. Sadly, there are something’s that even though they are important, I'll put it off for several reasons: it might be that it would overwhelm me, I don't quite understand what I need to do, I figure it would be easy to do so save it for later, I have no interest in it...etc.

I realize that there should be no excuses, but I have found that there are certain times when there is a legitimate reason for certain things that happen to people. I guess in many ways I really don't like the phrase 'no excuses' because to me that shows a lack of empathy for other people. I've noticed that I will put something off because of unknown reasons. This is where my Asperger's can rear its ugly head because I've known in the past that I have gotten things done in a timely manner, but for some strange reason I just can't get something done now. That can really irritate me because when I can't get something done so I would have no idea why! All I do is question the problem to which I can't answer. There are times when I'll ask my wife and of course she doesn't have a clue...I don't blame her because it's all on me.

Oddly, there have been a few times when putting something off was actually a benefit. If I had done something only to find out later I was just wasting my time, or that if I was to use something, but waited we might have needed it more later on, like money for example. The funny thing about procrastinating is after a while it can drive me crazy if I don't get something done. There are times when I feel guilty for not acting sooner on things. There are even times when I finish I'll ask myself why didn't I finish this sooner? I guess the important thing is not to let it overwhelm me because if it gets to that point then my stress level can go out of sight. Tragically that can be rather dangerous so procrastinating can come back to get you if you’re not staying up on the responsibilities we have. It sucks.

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Song: "Make A Move"

Artist: Royal Tailor

Album: Black & White

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Piece #111 - First Impressions

"You already know that making a good first impression can go a long way. But forget all the advice you've received about dressing to impress or putting on a cheesy smile. Turns out, the true secret to building a lasting connection reaches much deeper than what you wear." "According to Amy Cuddy, a Harvard Business School professor who has researched first impressions for more than 15 years, everyone (consciously or subconsciously) asks two questions when they meeting someone new: Can I trust this person? And can I respect this person?" This quote comes from Reader's Digest and I actually found this rather compelling because I never really heard of this before. I've addressed this topic of first impressions in the past but, I have to admit that this idea is interesting. I guess since you hear a lot of things from a smile, the outfit or what you say make the difference; however these two questions have me a little perplexed. I think it depends on the ...

Piece #1 - The Beginning

I guess like embarking on any puzzle, it must always starts with the first piece. So to begin, I have Asperger's Syndrome, in other words I'm Autistic, and so this literature will be about my struggles with this disorder as an adult. I was first diagnosed back in the summer of 2004. If it wasn't for my twin daughters, I might not have ever known all the questions I have ever had in life; to them, I will always be in their debt. Growing up, you are never really aware of any differences until the judgment years...6th thru 12th grade of school. A time when one always tests their own humanity against others; meaning, how will I measure up against other students. In my eyes I seemed to be just like them; two arms and legs, ten fingers and toes, head and body...nothing unusual. Yet, for some reason, I was treated a little different than everyone else. That's one of those things that you can't quite put your finger on, but I observed on many occasions how kids would talk...

Piece #12 - "Temper, Temper."

Anger is a learned behavior. When we come into this world, we comprehend how to react to things by watching others. One of my many...many weaknesses has always been my anger. As you can tell I enjoy writing and whenever I've written in my characters for a story, at least one would have an anger issue. The story I'm currently writing now called Horizon, the main character Miko has problems with her rage. It's something she'll have to deal with throughout the entire story. I guess in many ways it's a reflection on how I've had to handle it. Early in our marriage, I had warned my wife that I would need her help in making sure I wouldn’t let the anger get ahold of me, for the main reason...the kids. I love my girls way too much for them to pick up the same bad habit. Yes, I obviously understand that we all get angry from time to time. ( Even Jesus got angry when merchants were selling their items in the temple .) I'm talking about an extreme anger when in many ...

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