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Piece #17 - It's a matter of...Priorities

When it comes to setting my priorities, you would think this would be a "No Brainer", but with my Asperger's (and my wife); that's not always the case. My problem is "the situation", not the guy from Jersey Shore, I mean when anything like my job or my family comes into a conflict for me (hinds the situation); I actually find it difficult to make to proper decision. Why I say my wife, is because she feels there are many times when I do something for work, where as I should’ve been something else I needed to do for the family – ahead of the job.

I think the main problem with priorities is that I tend to be a "do it now" person. Sometimes, it is a good idea to get things done right away, but there are times when I should put certain things off because of some more pressing matter. With my memory issues, I tend to forget a task if I don't address it right away, it rarely gets taken care of. As Shakespeare would say, therein lays the rub, if I hold a task off for later I might forget and never get it done.

In the Bible, it even states to "Love God with all your heart, all your soul, all your body." and to "Love your neighbor as yourself.” so naturally, that would be something I would inhere too, but even then that can get crossed up. There are times when it's tough to "Love your neighbor" and in some rare occurrences, "Love God". Don't get me wrong, I love the Lord, but there are those quick, knee jerk reactions when love for God can slip right out of my mind. Thankfully my Lord is a forgiving one.

I have to believe this is one of the most difficult things about having Asperger’s. Whether it is getting assignments grade for work, trying to finish projects for my college class, or having some obligation for the family; I never seem to get everything lined up properly.



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Song: "Make Your Move"

Artist: Third Day

Album: Move

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Here is an example of a priority: This is my brother (Padres' Shirt), my nephew Kaden and my daughter Sarah. Actually Christen and Jennifer are in the picture, but they're hiding and my wife is taking the picture. This is at Disneyland, on the Small World Ride. (And no, I didn't get the T-Shirt.) I'm not a big fan of the ride.

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  1. My hardest struggle with love your neighbor as yourself is the second part: love yourself. Haven't quite figured that out yet. But obviously it doesn't mean I am allowed to hate my neighbor because I hate myself.

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  2. I understand your point. It can be a little misleading at first, it's just simply respecting and caring for others as you would care for yourself. (Realizing that there are many people who don't always 'care for themselves like they should.) If nothing else, showing compassion for others; like in the story of the 'Good Samaritan'.

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